Divorced and Single: Time to Feel the Pain
Written by: Anonymous
I won't sugarcoat it. I'm heartbroken right now.
I recently broke up with someone I was falling in love with. I didn't see it coming.
But, was I going to allow myself to feel the pain? NO WAY!
As soon as things ended, I went into fight or flight mode. I contacted every guy I could think of who had expressed interest in the past few months and shouted from the rooftops -- 'I'm single again!'
In less than two weeks, I had been on dates with three different guys. Turns out? It didn't help. I'm still sad.
Today I had lunch with an older woman who gave me some much needed advice. I wasn't even talking to her about my relationship! But, she said something that struck a nerve. A higher power must've put her in my path.
She said, 'the human body is meant to feel pain.' We live in a society that tries to mask it. We use pain pills, alcohol and drugs to numb our physical and emotional hardships.
What if we allowed ourselves to really feel?! It's important to feel the good. But, it's just as important to feel the bad and the ugly.
I'm an expert at masking pain by over-planning. I don't allow myself time to think and feel. When I have a kid-free night, I squeeze in as much as possible. Last night, I went on two dates and had dinner with friends in between... that is seriously insane!
And how to do I feel today? EVEN WORSE.
It's time I spend some nights alone.
It's time I allow myself to feel the pain.
It's time I learn to love myself again.