Encourage: Dating after Divorce
Written by: Anonymous in KC
I LOVE roller coasters! The anticipation as I climb to the top of that first hill... butterflies in my stomach. And, the exhilaration as I soar down the hill... not a care in the world! When the roller coaster comes to an end, I'm right back in line waiting for the next ride.
Dating is the ultimate roller coaster -- so why don't I love it?? After four months at it, I'm beat!
I've been on over 20 first dates since I first got divorced. At first, I said 'yes' to basically anyone. Coffee dates, lunch dates, after work drinks... I think my max was six dates in one week. Was I conducting my own version of the Bachelorette?!
Honesty, I'm sure I've passed up good men along the way. That's what happens when you are fixated on meeting as many guys as possible. But, my free time is limited and I worried that if I didn't meet them -- someone else would!
As the newness of dating has worn off, I've started to get more selective. I'm asking more difficult questions before I agree to a first date. And, when I see red flags? I'm RUNNING instead of walking away.
Choosing to get divorced was the most difficult decision of my life. Ultimately, I decided it was important for my kids to get the best version of me as possible, and I couldn't stay married and give them that.
So, why am I in such a rush? This is a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. It wouldn't hurt for me to wait in line for the ride for a little bit longer.
And learn to love myself again.