Dating after Divorce: Second Chance Love
Written by: Anonymous in KC
Divorce is a dirty word. You get a lot of different reactions when you say it, but none of them are good. People really don't know how to react to it.
Truth is, since my divorce, I'm happier 99% of the time. But, it's still my greatest failure. The silver lining is the second chance at finding a lasting love.
Remember the old adage -- 'first time, shame on you... second time, shame on me'? Lots of pressure when it comes to second chances! I won't fail this time around.
To avoid failure, I've done a lot of trial and error on the dating scene. I've learned a lot about myself, and I have a ton of funny stories! My fave... the guy who asked me to change my texts to 'read' receipt after our second date. Seriously?! Honestly -- it's exhausting!
I've wondered if I'd ever find my 'second chance'. I just may have done it. Finally!
He's amazing -- and not just because he's sexy and successful... that stuff is just icing on the cake. He's amazing because he is sincere. Thoughtful. Selfless. When I had a wreck a few weeks ago, he rearranged his schedule to take me to a concert the next night. He said he could tell I needed that in my life to cheer me up! I think I need HIM in my life! I was blown away.
Early in a relationship, it's easy to let the small things go. If he leaves the toilet seat up, I just laugh. I would have yelled at my ex-husband over that. Why can't it just stay that way?!!!
As I explore my second chance, I realize that this is a big part of me. I'm going to have to cut him some slack. Love is patient. Don't sweat the small stuff!
This is my second chance... I want to get it right. Otherwise, shame on me.